Herpes is a sexually transmitted disease that has no known cure. This means that if you are infected with it, you would have to be responsible enough to let your partner know so that your partner will be protected from the disease as well. If your partner is also infected, then telling him or her might be necessary so that both of you can get the appropriate treatment. With this in mind, what are the best ways to tell your partner you have herpes? This task may be difficult but remember that both and your sexual partner’s health conditions are at stake and this is a matter that needs to be brought out in the open as soon as possible.
The best ways to tell your partner you have herpes will mainly depend on your current relationship status. For married couples, this can be an especially difficult discussion, even more so if herpes was caught outside of the marriage, as opposed to having the disease lay dormant and go undetected for years, which certainly does happen. As long as you keep an open line of communication, telling your partner about it will not be as difficult as difficult as it looks like.
The means by which you tell your partner about your condition, may not be as important as telling your partner with utter sincerity in your tone and actions. First and foremost, honesty needs to come into play. Whether you got the disease by cheating, or if you got it before the relationship, you need to be honest and let your partner know that you do have it. Being prepared to answer questions is extremely important, as your partner will have many. You should be well versed in what your partner can expect, if they do contract the disease, and let them know what sort of drugs, diets, etc, can help lessen an outbreak if they do contract it. Always let them know the risks that they may be taking having sex with you, especially unprotected sex, which is not recommended if one of the parters has herpes.
Always have this conversation in private. This isn’t something that you’ll want to take your date or boyfriend/girlfriend to dinner, and spring this up in front of a room full of people. I don’t especially like telling people over the phone or by email or text either. It’s best to have this conversation one on one, so your partner can see your sincerity and you can better judge and react to how they’re feeling as well.
What could be worse is if you let your fear of rejection get into you, and your partner ends up acquiring the disease as well just because you were afraid to tell him or her about it. That may lead to a more complicated situation compared to if you immediately told your partner about your condition in the first place.
Regardless of when or how you tell your partner about it, what’s important is that you do it with all honesty and with good intentions. Never have sex with someone without telling them you have herpes. Having sex with someone doesn’t mean that you will necessarily pass herpes, but allow your partner to take the risks and make that choice and not you making that decision for them.